Back To School Tips For Parents In 2022

While it may still be the middle of July, summer will be over before you know it. That means you’ll soon have to start preparing your children for the start of another school year. This is often a difficult process for parents, as kids spend the summer having fun, staying up late, and thinking about anything other than school. If you’re worried about preparing your kids for another year of education, look no further. Here are a few tips to help make it easier than ever.

Start Bedtime Routines Early

Two weeks before school begins, it’s important that parents start preparing their kids for an earlier bedtime. Oftentimes, parents will allow their kids to stay up later in the summertime. If they don’t start enforcing an earlier bedtime until the night before school begins, it’s likely they won’t be able to sleep that night and will be exhausted for their first day. Your kids should be getting at least 8 hours of sleep each night, if not more. So if they wake up for school at 7 AM, make sure they’re in bed by 10 PM. If they’re younger, you may want them in bed even earlier.

Meet Their New Teacher

One of the biggest concerns of kids about a new school year is the new teacher. Having a good relationship with the new teacher can help ease some of their fears. During open houses or back-to-school nights, you can meet the new teacher and get to know them a little bit. Some teachers also welcome e-mails and phone calls. If you’re not able to contact the new teacher, try searching the school’s website or yearbook for his or her picture. If the teacher makes a welcome letter, make sure to read it together.

Connect Your Child With Their Friends

Another great way to ease your child’s back-to-school anxiety is to find out if any of their friends are in their class this year. If you know their friend’s parents, give them a call and see who their teacher is this year. Social media makes this even easier nowadays. If your child hasn’t seen one of these friends all summer, try getting them together before school starts so they can become reacquainted. Not only will this likely ease any worries your child might have about school, but it’ll also probably make them more excited about going back.

Buy Supplies As Soon As Possible

One of the most important things you’ll need to do is pick up school supplies for the new year. Notebooks, pencils, crayons, backpacks, you name it. These are all important, and you want your child to be as prepared as possible. The earlier you can get this out of the way, the better. Many stores start putting out supplies in the middle of the summer, and many often have sales as well so you can save some money. While you may not always know what your child needs for the year at this point, it’s still great to beat the start of the school year rush.

Do’s and Don’ts When Raising A Child With ADHD

Raising a child with ADHD can be challenging, as its severity and type can make it nearly impossible to set regular household rules. It’s totally normal to become frustrated with your child, but there are also things you should and shouldn’t do in order to make both your child and your lives a little easier. Here are a few do’s and don’ts for raising a child that struggles with ADHD.

Do’s

Create A Routine

Make a routine for your child, and stick to it every day. Having consistent routines can help keep your child’s attention focused on the things that are important to him or her. For instance, having your child put away their clothes for the next day can help provide structure.

Limit Distractions

Children with ADHD are prone to developing impulsive behaviors when they are exposed to various types of media, such as video games and television. Limiting their exposure to these types of distractions can help prevent them from developing an energy imbalance.

Believe In Your Child

It’s also important to remember that your child doesn’t realize how much stress they can be putting on themselves due to their condition. Being positive and encouraging can help keep them focused on the positive. Having confidence in yourself and your child can help prevent them from developing negative habits.

Don’ts

Don’t Sweat The Small Things

If your child has completed two of the three tasks that you assigned them, consider making some concessions in order to accommodate their needs. At the end of the day, this is all a learning process for them and it may help them move closer to the goal of completing all of the assigned tasks over time.

Don’t Lose Control

You are the parent, and you have a responsibility to set the rules for your child’s behavior. Being patient and nurturing can help keep you from being intimidated or bullied by your child’s actions.

Don’t Be Negative

It can be very simplistic, but take a day at a time and remember to focus on the positive. There will be times when you will feel better and things will get easier.

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The Best Parenting Books For 2022

Parenting isn’t easy, and some people never perfect it. Being a parent is a constant learning process, and it can be difficult figuring out how to approach each new and unique challenge that comes your way. A great way to learn more about being a parent is to read a good book on the subject. There are hundreds of awesome parenting books out there that are dedicated to not only giving helpful advice but sometimes also entertaining you. With so many great parenting books out there, I decided I’d talk about a few great ones, so you’d have someplace to start. Here are some of the best parenting books worth your time in 2022.

Positive Discipline – Jane Nelsen

Positive discipline is a parenting principle that focuses on having mutual respect and encouraging positive guidance. It doesn’t involve punishment and instead encourages learning.

Nelsen works with parents and teachers to make sure that their kids are both kind and firm. She believes that this type of discipline can help children develop their creativity and self-discipline.

No Bad Kids – Janet Lansbury

Lansbury’s approach to parenting is focused on treating children with respect, and she doesn’t use a time-out approach. She also values interactions with kids and uses gentle and caring responses to manage situations.

The title of her book suggests that everything she talks about is focused on avoiding shaming kids. No Bad Kids will teach parents how to discipline their kids in a way that doesn’t involve harsh words and emotional reactions.

The book covers a wide range of topics, such as punishment, cooperation, testing, hitting, and more. It’s a great guide for kids in the early stages of development who are expected to test their limits.

Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids – Dr. Laura Markham

Dr. Laura Markham is a popular and highly recommended parenting expert. Her book, which is called Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids, aims to help parents develop strong relationships with their kids.

In her book, she talks about how the mental state of parents can affect their kids. For example, if you’re angry at your child, expect that they’ll respond by shouting. Parents need to work on themselves first to develop a more positive relationship with their kids.

The book will walk you through some of the most common parenting situations, such as not following directions or not listening to your child. It will also help you develop a better understanding of how kids behave.

How to Defuse Tantrums

There are no perfect, “right” ways to deal with a toddler’s tantrums, but most experts agree that hitting and shouting are the most ineffective strategies. Short-term solutions such as begging and bribing are also not ideal. Giving in can also lead to more tantrums.

When kids know that “no” means “no,” they are less likely to act out, which can help parents and kids feel more in control. It’s important to focus on the behavior of the child instead of the emotional attack. This might sound challenging, but in perspective, it’s not unrealistic to refrain from shouting at your coworkers. We have to treat our kids the same way we treat our colleagues but at a developmentally appropriate level.

If your child has been having tantrums, here are some helpful strategies to help calm them down.

1. Don’t Respond

If your child is throwing a tantrum, try not to respond to them unless they’re physically threatening themselves or others. Instead, walk away from the room and set a timer to check on them.

2. Address Dangerous Behavior

If your child is having a serious meltdown including biting, kicking, or other dangerous behaviors, immediately stop them and make it clear that they are not allowed to hurt others. However, if they are still hurting others, take away their privileges and put them in a time-out.

3. Remain Calm

Remember that you are their role model when it comes to handling anger. If you are tempted to respond in anger, try to remember that they are feeling sad or frustrated and find a calm but firm way to help them work through it.

4. Redirect

Children have short attention spans, which makes them easy to divert. For instance, if your child is about to lose it at the grocery store because you won’t buy their favorite cereal, try saying something positive instead of negative and direct their attention elsewhere. Ask them to help you pick out crackers, or make plans together to stop somewhere fun on the way home!

5. Set Expectations

Getting ready for potential tantrums is also important, as it can help defuse the situation early on and give the child a sense of control. For instance, if you’re getting ready to leave the park, tell them that they can ride their scooters two more times before they have to go home instead of expecting them to stop playing immediately. They might still be upset about having to leave, but having a few minutes of warning can help them respond more positively.

6. Don’t Give In

Follow through with the original request. If your child gets angry because you told them to clean up their toys, then they should still pick them up once they are calm. If the tantrum was triggered because you turned down a request for a sweet treat, don’t reward them for calming down with a sweet treat. Kids thrive on predictability, so even when it’s tough, try to stick to your word and set expectations.

7. Don’t Take It Personally

You don’t want to feel guilty or out of control when your child has a breakdown. Kids can say hurtful things in the midst of a tantrum, and it can make parents question their parenting abilities. However, it’s important to remember that their actions are not directed at you, they are still learning to respond to frustration and disappointment. 

How do Parents Affect their Child’s Mental Health?

Several different things can affect a child’s mental health. Some are out of parents’ control, such as economic and social factors, but some factors such as parental care and support may impact the child’s mental health significantly. This post will explore some possible ways in which parents may affect their children’s mental health.

Being a Victim of Violence, Neglect, or Abuse at Home.

It can be difficult for children to talk about what happens at home. It’s not beyond the realms of possibility for children to be told to be quiet or ignored by their parents. This can have a significant impact on their mental health.

Parents Being Divorced or Separated.

A child may suffer anxiety and depression due to their parents being divorced or separated. The parent they live with may not have the time or energy to cater to all of the child’s needs. They may be taken out of clubs that they loved because their other parent could not afford to pay for them, leaving the child to feel rejected by at least one parent. A relationship breakdown can have a big impact on a child’s mental health and, therefore, should be avoided if at all possible.

Biological Factors.

Biological factors can play a role in mental health as well. For example, the child may have attention deficit hyperactivity disorder or have learning difficulties due to having been born with certain conditions such as dyslexia. They may require special help at school, which could cause them to feel isolated or bullied by their peers if they are not receiving the proper support. These factors could lead to anxiety and depression, continuing into adulthood if not identified and treated early enough.

In conclusion, although many different aspects of a child’s life can affect their mental health, it’s important to remember that parents and the environment in which the child lives can make a difference. If parents can see to all of the needs of their children and make sure that they are cared for properly, then they may be able to get a better grasp on their child’s mental health issues.

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How to Parent a Defiant Child

At some point, your perfect children can start to become defiant. This can be frustrating for parents, as it can lead to more stress in the household. There are ways to manage this issue before you seek help from a professional. Below are some tips for parents dealing with defiant children

Determine if There Are Underlying Issues

There are many reasons why children become defiant. Some of these include wanting to control their lives or get attention. Others are affected by hormonal changes that can trigger defiant behavior. It is essential to find the root cause of the behavior to find ways to treat it.

At children’s psychological clinics, they can help parents identify the underlying cause of deviant behavior by carrying out psychological testing. This can help determine if the behavior is related to an underlying condition or is a learned behavior.

Calm Down Before Giving a Punishment

It can be tempting to yell out punishment in the heat of the moment when your child is acting out. When dealing with defiant behavior, however, don’t punish the child immediately. Instead, tell him that you are disappointed and will talk about the consequences later. This will give him time to think about what they did wrong. When you punish right away, the child focuses more on the consequences instead of their actions.

Stay Consistent With Discipline

If you say no, mean it. This will help set a positive example for the child and show him that you mean what you say. It can also help set a precedent for the future. Consistent parenting is crucial in all aspects. 

Celebrate All Accomplishments, Big and Small

If your child constantly refuses to follow your directions, try taking away the negative responses of bad behavior and instead celebrate his or her achievements. Instead of dwelling on the past, try lifting their spirits by saying thank you for taking the trash out or making their bed.

Make Family Time a Priority

Family activities can help build a more positive relationship between parents and children. They can also help prevent defiant behavior. Having a positive flow of communication can help children feel more comfortable talking to their parents. During family time, keep distractions such as televisions and cell phones out of the room. 

There are many strategies for helping defiant children change their behaviors. It boils down to consistency and love. It is also important to keep in mind that it’s ok for parents to ask for help when they need it.

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How to Peacefully Parent Your Strong-willed Child

If you’re a parent of a strong-willed child, you know that things can often be a little bit harder than with other kids. These children can be more stubborn and determined, making it difficult to get them to do what they want. However, there are ways to effectively parent your strong-willed child and maintain peace in your home. Here are some tips.

Avoid Power Struggles

Power struggles are a common occurrence between parents and strong-willed children. These can be frustrating and exhausting for both parties involved. To avoid power struggles, try to use positive reinforcement instead of punishment. This means rewarding your child for good behavior instead of punishing them for bad behavior. 

You can also avoid arguing with your child and instead offer them choices. For example, you can say, “Would you like to wear a blue or green shirt?” This lets your child feel like they have some control while still getting them to do what you want.

Be Consistent

It’s important to be consistent when parenting a strong-willed child. This means having the same rules and expectations for your child. If you’re inconsistent, your child will likely try to take advantage of the situation. They may test boundaries and see what they can get away with. 

Be sure to follow through with your threats and promises to avoid this. If you say you’re going to do something, do it. This will help your child know that you mean what you say and that they can’t take advantage of the situation.

Pick Your Battles

With a strong-willed child, you may not be able to win every battle. It’s important to pick your battles and choose the most important ones to you. There will be times when it’s not worth arguing with your child over something small. Let them have their way on these occasions and save your energy for the bigger things. Some kids may try to take advantage of this, but as long as you’re consistent with the bigger things, they’ll eventually learn.

These are just a few tips for parenting a strong-willed child. Every child is different, so you may have to adapt these tips to fit your child’s specific needs. But if you use these tips, you’ll be able to parent your strong-willed child more peacefully.

Dealing With Toxic Parents

It can be incredibly challenging to cope with someone who is toxic when it happens to be a parent. Various things can be done to minimize the effects of toxic parents. This article will walk you through some of these steps and provide helpful tips on handling toxic parents.

The term toxic parent is not a medical term or a defined concept. Instead, it refers to parents who regularly act in a way that causes resentment, fear, and guilt in their kids. Instead of apologizing, toxic parents usually refuse to acknowledge that their actions are wrong. They also tend to abuse or neglect their kids.

You might also feel that their behavior is self-centered. It could be that they cannot provide the support you need. You also might think that their behavior is manipulative. They use their emotions to control you. Although it’s normal for people to have bad days and outbursts, it’s also possible that the behaviors during your childhood affected the way you developed as an adult.

DON’T BLAME YOURSELF

You might also blame yourself for their actions. Being an adult can make it hard to live up to your expectations. It can also make it hard to form healthy self-esteem. Family is a vital part of a person’s life, and it influences their thoughts and behavior. It’s also the foundation for their general worldview.

After learning that you were exposed to toxic parents, it may be helpful to recognize some of the harmful behaviors you experienced. Although it can be hard to change, behavior patterns can be modified with time and support. The first step in developing new habits is acknowledging the things that have affected your behavior.

SETTING CLEAR BOUNDARIES

One of the first things that you should do is set clear boundaries. While it can’t change the behavior of other individuals, setting boundaries can help you manage the interactions with toxic parents. This is an invisible line you can set for yourself and prevent someone from crossing, such as setting specific topics off-limits in conversations. Don’t leave the boundaries up for interpretation. Having clear boundaries can help you avoid accidentally pushing past them. Don’t get defensive if they have crossed them; just reiterate your limits and take a step back from contact if needed. You are the person who can make changes and take back control of your life. Set goals and make a plan to achieve them.

DON’T CARRY THE BURDEN ALONE

It’s important to reflect on how your childhood experiences affected you and what made you act. Talk to a trusted friend or family member about this topic. You don’t have to go on a path of healing alone. Having a mental health professional can also help guide you through the process.

To start, write down a list of things you would like to change. Once you have a list, practice addressing the one you want to change first.

In this situation, expect to face some challenging times. But, remember that you are also responsible for the progress of the things you want to change. You can also change the way you act and react by reminding yourself that you are the one who has control over all of your actions.

Consider starting therapy and sharing your boundaries with family members who will back you up. This will give you peace of mind knowing that the people involved are there to help.

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How Parenting Styles Affect Child Personality

Although developmental psychologists have studied how parents affect children’s development for many years, they cannot clearly demonstrate how their actions affect kids’ behavior. Some children who share a home can have very different personalities. Despite the obstacles to studying this topic, researchers believe that the parenting styles that children grow up under can affect their adult behavior.

Diana Baumrind, a psychologist, studied over a hundred preschool-age kids in the 1960s. She used various research methods to identify the different dimensions of parenting. She learned that most parents have three different parenting styles based on these dimensions. These styles influence multiple aspects of their kids’ behavior.

AUTHORITARIAN

One particular parenting style is authoritarian, which involves parents setting rules that their kids must follow. This type of parenting usually leads to punishment. While parents have high expectations, they rarely respond to their kids’ mistakes. Instead, they provide minimal direction regarding their kids’ future actions. According to Baumrind, parents who have this style expect their kids to follow their orders without explanation. They are often described as authoritarian and oppressive. Many parents with an authoritative style set rules and guidelines that their kids follow.

AUTHORITATIVE

This type of parenting is responsive to the needs of its children. Although it demands a lot of their attention, these parents provide adequate support and warmth. The combination of expectations and support helps children develop skills such as self-control and independence.

PERMISSIVE

Permissive parents are the type of parent who rarely disciplines their kids due to their low expectations. They are more lenient and can be more friendly with their kids.

UNINVOLVED

Aside from the three major styles, psychologists John Martin and Eleanor Maccoby also introduced the fourth type of parenting, uninvolved. While parents provide their kids with the proper nourishment and shelter, they often do not offer them enough support and guidance. This type of parenting leaves them vulnerable to abuse or neglect.

The effects of these parenting styles on a child’s development are still unclear. Several studies have been conducted to study the impact of these styles on a child’s behavior. Although authoritarian parenting styles can lead to higher levels of obedience and proficiency, they are also lower in social competence, self-esteem, and happiness. Permissive parenting is known to lower a child’s self-esteem and happiness. It also increases their chances of experiencing problems with authority. The uninvolved styles have the lowest social, academic, and personal development scores.

The styles of parents can create a unique blend in their families. For instance, a mother who has an authoritative style may adopt a more permissive approach while a father follows an authoritarian one. It can be challenging for parents to maintain a consistent approach to parenting due to the various styles they adopt.

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How to Support Your Depressed Child

It is essential to prepare for the various challenges your child may experience as a parent. Depression is not as rare as we think it is. According to a 2016 study, 12.8% of US teenagers had a major depressive episode. During adolescence, many phases can affect a teenager’s behavior. Identifying the warning signs of depression can help prevent a teenager from experiencing it untreated for too long. 

Support Your Child

Family support is a vital aspect of maintaining a healthy social relationship. Establishing this type of support can help build a strong foundation for their future social relationships. Having the support of other family members can also help develop a child’s trust, allowing them to talk about their problems.

Encourage Healthy Choices

A healthy lifestyle can also help manage the symptoms of depression. It can also encourage a child to adopt a healthy lifestyle as they become more independent. Being subtle in your suggestions can help motivate teenagers to adopt a healthy lifestyle without pushing back.

Getting kids to exercise regularly reduces their stress levels and improves their mental health. Encourage them to participate in various forms of physical activity, like sports or even going for regular walks.

Food is also known to improve our brains’ ability to cope with stress. Having a variety of healthy meals can help minimize stress and improve their mental health.

Getting enough sleep is also essential for our bodies to function correctly. Having a consistent bedtime can help keep a child focused on getting enough sleep. Our bodies follow rhythms, so going to sleep and waking up at similar times can help your child get better quality sleep and improve their mental health.

Encourage Social Interaction

Depression can also lead to isolation. It can make it hard for a child to connect with new people or feel unmotivated to hang out with friends. This can also worsen their symptoms, as social support and connection are vital for maintaining good mental health.

Being able to support and listen to your child is also significant to helping them cope with their depression. Follow the advice above to do so.